"Have you grabbed your wife's boobs today?"

The controversy is all over facebook. What controversy do you ask? Raising "awareness" for breast cancer by announcing how many weeks you are pregnant and what you are craving by a made up calculation based on your birth date. What seems like a "harmless" game, is breaking the hearts of thousands of women.

Why is it breaking hearts? Well, apparently whoever decided that this would be the "fun", "creative" way of raising awareness didn't take into consideration that not only is October Breast Cancer Awareness month, but in 1988 President Reagan designated it National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month as well. This said person has obviously never suffered from infertility, miscarriage, or infant loss because if she had, she would know that one of the hardest things to encounter when you are suffering through one of these devastating events is to see pregnancy announcements on facebook. It is like a punch in the gut. It reminds you of what you had, what you lost, and what you want more than anything in the world.

Over the past few days there have been hundreds, if not thousands of women announcing fake pregnancies to raise awareness for breast cancer. Does this make ANY sense to anyone? HOW may I ask does a pregnancy announcement raise awareness for BREAST CANCER? I think the bra color from last year was better, because at least it had something to do with the ta-tas. Even then, we weren't supposed to let the guys know what we were talking about? Why not? Who better to help with breast exams then our men? My doctor has even mentioned that my husband may be the first to realize there was something different about my ta-tas, because men are generally the first to notice changes in their wives boobs. So let them in on the awareness as well! Heck! How about we start an awareness campaign GEARED towards men: "Have you grabbed your wife's boobs today?" I would wear a t-shirt like that!

This kind of campaign would not only get everyone involved, make people take notice, but it wouldn't hurt so many women in the process. There is no point in a "game" that raises "awareness" if it hurts others in the process. Instead of announcing your pregnancy and craving, please do something more productive to get involved. Participate in a walk, help raise funds, dress up in all pink, but please, please, please do not take part in this ridiculous game.